Fu*k buddies

Or "friends with benefits", if you're not a potty mouth like me.

Actually, I used to call them "tweeners" as in they were nice to have around when I was in between boyfriends.

If you're not familiar with the concept, this is someone with whom who have a mostly (or strictly) sexual relationship.

I've had a few of these. I (kinda) have one now.

A brief summary...

FB 1 - a guy from my gym. I used to call him a lava lamp. Nice to look at but not very bright. He was a professional athlete and he had a great body but his elevator didn't always go up to the top. He wasn't smart and he wasn't even awesome in bed. I just liked looking at him naked. That one fizzled out when we both got into "serious relationships". I think he married his.

FB 2 - a guy from work. I was happily single, he was engaged. (Don't hate. I was young, stupid, and selfish.) He was even younger than I was, very inexperienced, and his fiancee was a prude. We fooled around quite a bit but I put a stop to it when he got married. A girlfriend is one thing, a wife is a little different. (It made sense at the time.) We've remained friends to this day but the friendship is strained by the fact that a) all he wants to talk about is us having sex, in the past and in the future and b) he introduced me to my ex-fiance. I am flattered by the fact that he remembers so many details of our escapades though. He keeps insisting I could make money off of teaching a class to inhibited women with topics like Blow Jobs 101 and Vibrators: Not Just for Single Girls a/k/a Toys for Twats.

FB 3 - another guy from work (different job than FB 2). Not one of my proudest moments because he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But the sex was amazing and he was well-endowed. There was also the thrill of getting away with it. We carried on for almost a year and remained friends for a while afterwards but, other than running into each other at a concert and a quick kiss in the parking lot, I haven't talked to him in a long time.

It's been about 4 years since my last FB (forgive me Father, for I have sinned) and I thought I was past that phase.

Enter FB 4 - another guy from work. Actually, he doesn't work in my office but I met him there. (See also: delivery guy.) I let it be known that I had a crush on him, we talked on the phone for a week or so and just days prior to our first "date", the conversation got a little risque. So the first time we hung out together, we ended up in bed. The next day or two, we carried on a few text conversations. He suggested that I was some kind of "naughty girl" with a wild side. I bluntly asked him what he was expecting from all of this. He made it clear he was only interested in something physical and I was okay with that. I believe in laying the proverbial cards on the table.

That was just about a week ago and we've had sex one other time since then. The good thing about it is that the sex is incredible. Its completely wild and uninhibited and I'm guessing he's about as kinky as I am. (See also: erotic asphyxiation.) The bad thing about it is that I wasn't friends with this guy first. All of my other FBs have been guys that I could talk to on nights where sex wasn't in the picture. I could call them up or vice-versa and we could just chat, catch up, whatever. This guy doesn't seem to want to talk unless the conversation ends with me coming over to his place. I don't think I like that. Even though I am perfectly capable of a sex-only relationship, I also need a little mental stimulation in between trysts to keep me interested.

So am I going to keep FB 4 around until I find A Boyfriend or even FB 5? We'll see...